This morning Twitter told me a woman called Stoya disclosed her rape publicly.
James Deen held me down and fucked me while I said no, stop, used my safeword. I just can’t nod and smile when people bring him up anymore.
— Stoya (@stoya) November 28, 2015
I don’t know who Stoya is, and while I felt sorry that this happened to her (I also felt sorry about all the sh!t she was going to get from the public disclosure) to be honest, this is the sort of news you hear a few times a day. Someone somewhere is always raped. I’m saying this not to minimise the case but to explain why I simply went and had breakfast. Because there was nothing else I could do. Later on, however, I went back on Twitter and came across this. Needless to say the original tweet had been removed by the time I got to see the screenshot, but somehow, sadly, it’s not too difficult to believe it was published. This is how I found out Stoya is a sex worker. And as the day went by, the hateful words grew on me.
You see someone say they were raped. If you really don’t care that much – do as I did, go have something to eat. Why take the time out of your life to blame this person for getting raped? Unless you really, REALLY hate this person and you’re so happy it happened to them you just can’t contain this feeling anymore.
Because this is what Ms Ditum does. A woman says “I was raped” and you respond “Well, most porn is rape anyway, no?” Since when is it feminist to put a victim’s job and your ideology before the actual assault?
I’ve been through a lot of shit in my current job. But the worst of it was when I went to police to report that one man who, if he attacked someone more fragile than me, could really ruin lives. And they told me, ‘It’s a dangerous job, what did you expect?’ And much as it hurts, this is just “when you watch porn, you don’t know if you’re watching rape” rephrased.
It’s people like you, Ms Ditum, who allow and encourage police to treat us this way. It’s not some patriarchy. It’s real people who have power to change things, who go round shouting about how hard they work to change things, but actually don’t – they are the ones who I feel are responsible.
You are worse than police, Ms Ditum. Police are cunts, but at least they never pretend that they care for my wellbeing. You, however, position yourself as someone who cares for women’s rights. Stoya is a woman. I am a woman. Thousands of sex workers are women. You are one big fat lie.
Solidarity with Stoya and all sex workers who have been, are and will be raped and then blamed and dismissed by the ditums of feminism.